5 Reasons to Ignore the Provokers on Social Media
Ah, the provokers, the bane of nice people’s existence. You know the type, the person who has a negative comment on every post. Or has to point out what’s wrong with your image, thinking, sentence structure, whatever.
1. Provokers are narcissistic
Narcissism is a personality disorder. People with this disorder are serial provokers. They tend to seek out easy-going people, and are rampant on social media, where they can hide behind their computer keyboard and minimize other people. Don’t give them the power
2. They seek to exploit nice people
They exploit laid back personalities by poking at them with surreptitious digs, veiled playfulness, and patronizing. You’ll try to stay calm and reasonable in your reply, but it doesn’t end there.
3. They don’t give up
No matter how kind, or benign your response is, the narcissist won’t be happy until you’ve snapped. So any response is only a target for more jabs, questions, negativity.
4. They are unstable
When you finally snap, and type what you’d never say in person, the narcissist labels you as passive-aggressive, unstable, or angry. He wins, and likely gloats.
5. Provokers aren’t worth your time.
Engaging with provokers will wiped you out. You’ll spend way too much time preoccupied with the exchange, and feel as if you’ve been drained. All of the arguments in your head that you’ve concocted to defend yourself are futile, because the narcissist doesn’t want a solution, they want an argument. And in the end, you’ll be depleted, and worn out over a conversation that really didn’t matter all that much.
Narcissistic personality people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for admiration and a lack of empathy for others. But behind this mask of ultra-confidence lies a fragile self-esteem that’s vulnerable to the slightest criticism. The internet is a great way for them to push their self-importance on others.
So, don’t do it.
You have far better things to do with your time and energy.